A Virtuous Woman

A Virtuous Woman

“A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.” Proverb 12:4

 

For almost 50 years (my entire life) I have witnessed this incredibly strong woman endure some of the most cruel and painful treatment that I would not wish on any other woman in the world, and yet she remains a virtuous and steadfast prayer warrior.

I have seen many so-called righteous people come and go claiming to be “Holy” but failing to live up to the claims. One such experience I wrote about here.

Born and raised by an abusive father and timid mother, she picked cotton in the fields of Arkansas only to give her entire earnings to support her father’s bad habits. I have often heard the stories of her father holding her mother at gunpoint threatening to kill them all and how she would cry and plea…

“Daddy, please don’t kill us.”

When she finally mustered up the courage to escape, she fled to California to live with an auntie. There she soon met the man she would be wedded to until his death in 2008. In spite of her pastor’s advice that marrying this individual was NOT a good idea, she married him anyway. This particular man had already scorned his first marriage having slept with his wife’s best friend bringing another innocent, illegitimate life into this world. Little did anyone know, he was just beginning.

I never really knew about the double (or maybe quadruple) life that my father was living. I often got clues like the time I was visiting a girlfriend of mine’s house and her mother asked if he was my father and continued to tell me how her and my father kick it together all the time. A very awkward moment that was and that was just the tip of the iceberg. All the while this virtuous woman remained faithful, working, cooking, cleaning, taking care of the home, paying the bills, buying the groceries and raising his daughter from the first marriage and myself. The majority of her personal time was spent attending a little local church rightly named Rehoboth which means “There’s room for us” but the real testimony of this virtuous woman’s life was how she lived when not at the church which I was blessed enough to be able to observe and learn from. Consistently and persistently she could be found locked in her room on her knees crying out to God. Some mornings I would wake a little before she came into my room to wake me and I would witness her on her knees thanking and praising God for the new day. I can still remember her weekly routine: Sunday was church ALL DAY, Sunday School plus morning and evening services. Monday through Friday she was loyal to her employment. So loyal, in fact, I can’t remember her taking not one sick day. On Tuesday nights, I remember a church function called YPWW (Young People Willing Workers) Wednesday night was Bible Study. Every other wednesday, she went grocery shopping for the entire household. Tuesday evenings, she balanced the bank account and wrote checks to pay the bills. These things, she did religiously.

Meanwhile, her husband was out living his other lives creating more and more babies. I rarely saw him and missed out on many father/son moments. He was never there to teach me any sports or have any memorable conversations with me. I always thought it was because he was working all the time.

Yep, he was working ALL the time!

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I will not speak on that part of the story as it will definitely strike a nerve with the rest of my siblings and that is not my intention and so I have edited those parts out. My intentions with telling this story in the first place is, number one, it has been cathartic for me and second, I believe it is a part of my mama’s life that she struggles the most with and now and wants HER story to be told.

 

   THAT VIRTUOUS WOMAN IS MY MAMA, BERTHA MAE:

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   Before you get it twisted, please understand that I do not hate my father or any of my brothers and sisters I have nothing but Love for them (both half and full) I simply wanted to share this true story of this incredibly strong and faithful woman who, in spite of tremendous trials and tribulations, still managed to shine on ALL of them.

“Just Go!” Don’t Stop.

DGBM

P.S. It is my belief that enduring such harsh conditions is the cause of Bertha Mae’s current diagnosis of dementia. She now resides in a memory care facility where she is receiving the necessary care and attention she needs, however, memory care is very expensive and there is a very certain possibility that her small nest egg may not be able to sustain her stay. For that reason, I am asking for donations. If you find it in your heart to help,

PLEASE CLICK HERE TO DONATE. Every little bit of help is appreciated. Thank you and God bless you.

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14 thoughts on “A Virtuous Woman

  1. Wow, what a moving story.

    Your mom is a really a unique and kind soul.

    Going through all that, being betrayed by the one who loves, been insulted but still standing hope to help when they ask for it. Your mum is amazing.

    I really love your mindset and forgiveness towards all the ones who wronged you. I know it must be hard and I truly admire you for that. 

    Thanks for sharing this inspiring story and all the best to you.

    1. Indeed, you do not find too many women that will endure such treatment and continue faithfully to live righteously. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

  2. Your story brought tears to my eyes.  I can’t think of any other woman that would ever stay in a situation like this.  I could not imagine anyone being able to endure this like your mother did. It sounds like her faith pulled her through those difficult times. Thank you for sharing your story!

  3. Phew! A great story I must say. Your mom is indeed a virtuous woman. From all that has happened to her, right from the early stage of her life, having a father that was not so caring, and getting married to a man who doesn’t care for his immediate family as he ought to, shows that she endured a lot.

    It is rare to see such women with that patience, and I definitely know that God has rewarded her and is still rewarding her for taking care of her husband kids from other women.

    I pray she gets better. Thanks for letting us into your world.

  4. This is an informative and educative article. You have thoroughly put everything in perspective for anyone reading this post to understand the points. Virtuous women are very hard to comeby so if you found one, The best thing to do is to hold her tight. I have always appreciated the love of my mum because of her loyal heart. It seems this is common to all women. I have always engaged with woman with soft heart which made me had a great conviction about women generally. Thanks for this lovely post

    1. Thank you for being a part of keeping my mama’s story a living testimony of what a virtuous woman is made of. “Just Go!” Don’t Stop.

  5. What a touching and an inspiring story! The Bible had show the real definition of the virtuous woman “A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.” I am really touched with the woman story. The main fact I can point out is that the majority of her personal time was spent attending a little local church rightly named Rehoboth which means “There’s room for us” but the real testimony of this virtuous woman’s life was how she lived when not at the church which I was blessed enough to be able to observe and learn from. Consistently and persistently she could be found locked in her room on her knees crying out to God. I can categorically say the secret of the woman virtuous and optimistic life was from God and base on the word of God. Because the serves as a lamp to her life. But, to be sincere Life is not a funny thing indeed. It requires the grace of God. Thanks for sharing this.

  6. I absolutely love what I read in this insightful article because it is full of great information. This is fascinating and interesting to me, this story really touched me. A virtuous woman is very scare to locate today, a virtuous woman suffered Alot and also offer good things for the satisfaction of her household. A virtuous woman prays and ensures nothing bad happens to his family. This article is an eye opener for every woman to learn. Best regards 

    1. Thank you so much, your words truly describe the virtuous woman I have watched continue to endure whatever comes her way. “Just Go!” Don’t Stop.

  7. Wow!😮

    Such a heart touching story about an extremely strong and courageous woman. It’s very hard to believe this story is real. And the endless love she had for all in spite of the cruelty and painful life she leads. this is the type of the story I have enjoyed the most, with full of tragic and horrifying events and in the end, victory comes. Here I can only say, ‘God helps those who help themselves’. A true VIRTUOUS WOMAN. Thanks a lot for sharing heart touching story.
    Hats off!

    Warm regards,
    Rgpratap.

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